Unleashing Your Leadership Potential: Let Inner Energy Show you the Way
By Laurent Vuibert
PCC, CPCC, MBA – Founder Personal And Team Executive Coach
Founder of Authentic Choices
Many people used to tell me ‘I would like to do more of this, less of that, ‘I want to look like this, and ‘I want to achieve this, ‘how do I push this aside?’, ‘how do I do that?’. The answer to all of these questions is quite often very simple: you have to trust the way the energy is pointing instead of trying to control the energy with your mind by playing mind tricks and defining how it should look according to all the socialized templates that you have learned in your education and in your lifetime. There is a moment when we’re invited to learn to recognize the power of the energy within us. What we should really pay attention to is the essence of what’s within us and what form it wants to take.
In the world, we live in, especially in the education system, from very early on we are taught to translate, label things, and be right or wrong. In the French education system, for instance, we put tremendous importance on learning all the names of the past kings and queens and what they have done for many centuries, whereas in fact, what we want is to be able to make the next decision. So when do we learn to be informed by what’s inside of us instead of what was in the past?
When I’ve worked with people who are very good designers or who have managed to create and develop organizations, I’ve learned that the hardest thing for them is to apply what made them successful to others to themselves. So if you answer the question, what is it that you want for the world, the chances are that what you want for the world is also what you want for yourself. Therefore, when you start to apply the capacity that you have practiced all your life to yourself in terms of how you want to grow and develop, that process for you will become much easier. That means starting to amplify and recognize what you truly want to do from your heart. That’s what you want to explore, what wants to express itself through you, and how instead of ignoring it, pushing it down, and therefore having to cope with so many unwanted situations and so many coping mechanisms, you can learn how to appreciate the direction it wants to go. How you can start recognizing the impact it wants to have on people, whether it’s desire, striving for excellence, creating things or having more fun in life, or the intensity that you want to experience when you create, when we build relationships with others or the anger that you might have and have labelled negatively so far.
How do you allow yourself to let the anger express itself in places so that you get access to its creative capacity rather than learn to hold all your power inside of you not being able to lift the standards and lift the collective of your conversation with people in front of you because of the fear of the impact you might have on them? Many of us have probably been told that we should not do some things, that we should keep our tone down and similar things. We all want to be respectful yet it’s when we start to respect ourselves and appreciate our capacity and the amount of energy inside of us, we become able to access what we want with less pushback on the world. We all can learn to be more available to ourselves so that we can consequently be more available to others. There is nothing to choose from the two aspects of a relationship between two people as both aspects matter. The richer your relationship is with yourself, the richer your relationships will be with other people. It’s all about allowing yourself to amplify the energy that you are afraid of, letting it go instead of holding it back inside.